Thai women make excellent wives. Not only are they devoted to their husbands but they also appreciate the Western traditions of treating women with respect and generally being faithful! They are arguably the most beautiful women on the planet and are extremely charming and fun-loving. Why then are there so many horror stories of Western men having terrible experiences with Thai women?
Well the truth is that for every horror story there is a happy ending (and not the sort of happy ending that you’d find in the infamous girlie bars). In fact it is exactly those sort of happy endings which separates the good girls from the bad ones. The problem is that most men that come to Thailand looking for love are looking in the wrong places. Prostitutes, although deep down they may be good people, are not wife material. You may get lucky and find an honest bar girl but 99% of them will just disappoint you and your romantic adventure will almost certainly turn into one of the thousands of horror stories which repeat themselves time after time.
Unfortunately even the bar girls with the kindest hearts and best intentions, are quickly disillusioned by the industry they work in. After a very short time they lose all respect for foreign men and start to see them as sources of income. After working for a while they learn to use their charm and beauty to make men fall in love with them, and a lot of them become very, very skilled at this. Before you know it you are one of many men that regularly send money to Thailand to pay for the ‘sick buffalo’ at their parent’s village. Some girls have scores of different men on the go, each one convinced that they are the only man in her life and that she is different from all the rest.
So lesson 1: If you want to find a good Thai wife, don’t choose a bar girl!
A few more tips that might help you to identify a good potential wife: If a girl introduces you to her family this is a very significant move. Thais do not like to be seen to have many partners so they will only bring home those lovers that they are very serious about. The other side of this coin applies as well: If you are not serious about a Thai girl then DON’T let her take you to meet her parents. For them, this is as good as getting engaged to marry and is a very significant gesture.
Be wary of Thai girls that are very forward. If you spend any time in Thailand you will notice that all Thai people are friendly, much less shy than we are, and always willing to talk to you. But generally it is Thai tradition that the man chats up the girl, so if you find a girl being ‘over-friendly’ then just take care – don’t immediately reject her on these grounds, but it would be wise to be suspicious of her motives!
Try not to pick the first girl that you find attractive and that seems to like you! There are many millions of beautiful women in Thailand and you will find yourself more popular than you might be with the ladies back at home. So do take your time and try to find one that you can have good conversation with, rather than just the first one that comes along. A lot of these sorts of marriages fail after a few years when the lines of communication get better only to discover that actually these couples have very little in common.
With patience, respect and a little bit of luck you will be able to find the girl of your dreams in Thailand.